SONG OF SOLOMON 5:2 - 6:3 - Fight Club Rules

When you’re in a conflict, is your tendency to fight back, find an amicable resolution, flee from the fight, or flounder (as in, allow yourself to take a “beating”)?

Think back to any of your most recent argument or fight. Was it resolved amicably? In light of some of what you learned from the video tonight, how might you have handled that argument/fight differently? (in a God-honoring way).

In the video, Matt Chandler said, “all frustration is birth out of unmet expectations.” Do you agree or disagree with this statement? Explain.

Do you find that you’re able to express clearly what the issue is and what you want when in conflict, or do you tend to skip around different issues while ignoring the main issue?

How do you often react when you don’t get what you want? What would be a healthier expression of your frustration when in conflict?

Romans 12:19 says, “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord.” What does this verse look like in your life when you’re embroiled in conflict?  What’s the main instruction in the command?

Consider the 5-NEVERS mentioned in the video, which one of them seem most dangerous?Never speak rashly.    

  • Never touch your mate in anger.    
  • Never embarrass your mate publicly.    
  • Never argue (publicly) in front of family.   
  • Never mention your in-laws (or any other family member).

Which one of the five do you think you need to begin working on now, before God leads your spouse into your life (or you into theirs)?

What is one character quality you need to develop in the coming months that will make you a more godly person? (someone people admire and desire to pursue).